When I was a little younger, I used to think that anger drives most of our strength. I was taught like that. Everywhere I would see and any quote I would read, It would tell me to avoid anger. It is the worst emotion. Read Killing the Demon by Rees Gargi.
I grew up like that, years thinking anger would make me weak, and no matter what, I should stay calm and polite.
Years passed by, I graduated high school and survived college. I tried as much as I could to avoid anger. At any price. I would not annoy people, respect everyone, and try to please them as I go along.
I formed a habit of punishing myself in one way or another. To absorb all that anger, and all that fury inside myself.
The results were never good.
I entered adulthood as a very mature guy. Mature but unstable. I would make people around me happy, be compassionate, and listen to everyone’s story. Even if it bored me, I would try to resolve it for anyone who cared to tell me.
Later I learned, people tell problems. They love reciting their problems to everyone as if it was a melodic song. No one likes to accept the harm they did or do and the malicious brain they carry in their skull.
People are corrupt, aren’t they?
Killing the Demon
No, they are not. People are not corrupt. Everyone goes through changes, it’s just up to them to either adapt, resist, or enhance themselves.
I worked through my problems, made myself better with every change. Every time I fell, I carried myself up. I tried to push myself against the strongest of winds, I learned to smile, to laugh, to cry, and finally, I rejoined.
Of course, I had help, and some people held me like pillars.
Understanding the Demon
Anger is not the worst feeling, believe me. Although it drives some disturbing emotions, yes, but it is far from the worst feeling itself.
It is often said that there is a little demon inside our head, and he is the reason we get angry. However, I can go on and on, telling you that: it is not true, I am a scientist, and I know the cause of anger, but I’ll not ruin the fun. So let’s believe the demon story to be the truth.
Maybe it is true, who knows but God.
There is a little demon inside our head, he sleeps most of the time. He has a large tail like a scorpion, with twin blades on the edges and an arrow at the tip. He has a giant horn on his head, maybe two. His teeth are sharp but symmetrical, and he is red like blood.
While we are happy, it sleeps pleasantly and weeps along with us when we are sad. But, he only gains control over us when we are furious. Anger drives the hormones inside our head and pumps him the power onto us.
And when he has the controls, you know the rest.
Some people get angry easy, some are hard to provoke. But that doesn’t make calm people any less dangerous. Longer a volcano waits, harsher it erupts. Little things and small issues that we ignore in our daily life usually pile up to become a larger depression on ourselves and others.
A demon lives inside us. He gives us strength in exchange for our peace.
We cannot kill it, we can not let it go.
We just have to learn to tame it.
Control It before it does to you.
So, How to tame it
Okay, now we know that anger is not always a bad thing. Is it?
Well, the demon inside you, literally or not, is attached to you since you were born, and now it’s a part of you. You cannot just kill a part of yourself now, can you?
And that demon is probably fond of you, maybe working for you in your subconscious mind. There must be a reason God put this demon in our heads. Perhaps to help us, save us from harm. For whatever reason, this demon is necessary.
The real question is, how do you tame it for your maximum good?
How can you control your anger in your own or someone greater’s benefit?
The answer is simple: funnel it.
How would you sail in the wind flowing against your boat? By funneling the air, some physics laws, and boom! You are sailing against the wind.
You can funnel your anger. See, anger is not just an emotion. It is a catalyst. It is red and strength. Use this catalyst to boost your other feelings; to become more passionate in love; to acquire more muscles in the gym.
Use it to grasp more knowledge and become wiser. Take your anger, combine it with your soul.
Never just let it go, never quench your curiosity. Let this demon in your leash, and rule your world.
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